Discernment in dating

That’s the time when you might begin to focus yourself and your search.

Becoming a member of a religious community or a hermit or a priest doesn’t magically happen on the day you enter.

It occurs gradually because you’ve already begun to make choices in your life that resonate with consecrated life.

I knew I had to get out and fast because my intrinsic values were being stepped upon and that is super important to me in building a relationship with ANYONE.

Discernment and keeping your eyes open and remaining sober-minded and prayerful can save you a lot of time from mismatching yourself with people who should have never made it past “hello how are you? It can save you the heartache of injuring yourself with individuals whose goals and visions are misaligned with your own and give you the soundness of mind and pureness of heart to be able to enjoy the goldmine of a divine, healthy, and happy relationship instead of expending great energy on fruitless pursuits when that beautiful relationship you desire manifests.

Songwriting and crafting blogs all too easily take a backseat to binge sessions on Netflix, especially when we are tired after a day of chasing a toddler and keeping her fingers out of the electric sockets.

I’ve been wanting to write more particularly about discernment and…

w=366" class="alignnone wp-image-1198" src="https://fearfullyfashioneddotblog.files.wordpress.com/2017/06/giphy-downsized-large.gif? w=506&h=380" alt="dating with discernment" width="506" height="380" / As a single woman navigating dating can be a lot like trying to tip toe over landmines in attempts to get to the place of the coveted gold mine a.k.a, a relationship that is divine, healthy, and most of all happy and representative of the love that you release into the world.

God always sends us soft and sometimes loud signals like “Hey don’t pass go, don’t collect 0, this ain’t it” but sometimes we can be very headstrong, lonely, willing to compromise, too kind-hearted for our own good, too optimistic, etc.

Date, visit religious communities, do a year of service, try out a new job, and go where you feel alive. Be honest with the person you are dating and be honest with yourself.

As you continue to explore, you will find that some of your choices feel more in sync with how you want to be in the world and how you feel God is calling you.

that those very characteristics prevent us from vetting people the way that we normally would.

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